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Ideas
of inherent evil in the
feminine and womanhood are
especially peculiar to -- and deeply rooted -- in Mediterranean,
Arabian and
the cultures of the Indian subcontinent.
Indian
culture was suffused
early on with perceptions of
women as “sensual, unintelligent, envious, unreliable, fickle,
uncontrollable
and in need of male supervision.” At the same time they were praised as
obedient daughters and wives and as self-sacrificing mothers,
especially as
mothers of sons.” Early Buddhist texts placed spiritual liberation as
attainable for all, “regardless of sex, class or caste,” but
pre-existing
social power structures prevailed. Thus women found themselves
nonetheless
subordinate. Even the “oldest most experienced nun” was expected to
defer to
the youngest of her male counterparts. In this ancient culture, women –
presumably by their mere existence and presence -- were seen in India
as
threats to men’s devotion and discipline, especially for men vowed to
be
celibate (Kloppenborg
151-152).
A
woman’s sensuality was seen as “the result of a lack of
self-discipline” which
a woman must fight to retain her virtue. In one parable, a nun is
described as
wandering for seven years in a quest to escape her desires, even to the
point
of contemplating suicide when faced with failure. A woman’s physical
beauty and
alluring personality were portrayed as evil temptations to men. One
passage
contains the solution that became ossified in Indian culture to this
day. The
woman acknowledges her inherent feminine evil, offering her obedient
submission
as penance, thus allowing her husband to partake of the pleasure she
has to
offer, so long as he dictates the terms (Kloppenborg
158-159).
In
ancient Greece and classical Rome, a few women did hold religious
positions of
authority and were respected as priestesses and oracles, but were not
offered
citizenship and thus had no say in political affairs -- domestic or
international. Celtic Europe held women in a different regard than did
their
close relatives in the pre-Christian northern Mediterranean. With
considerable
exasperation, the Roman Emperor Tacitus noted how his representatives
sometimes
faced Germanic, Gaulish, British and Irish women at the negotiating
table and
how his legions were challenged by forces occasionally under female
command.
There weren’t equal numbers of female leaders in these relatively
simple
societies, but the fact that the general population accepted their
authority
distinguished them indeed. Giving an indication of the future, the
Romans noted
that many in tribal Europe ascribed certain women with certain
“divinatory
powers” that were consulted before initiating major community decisions
such as
negotiating with [or waging war upon] outsiders (Green
94-97).
The
importance of this will become clear when the old religions and the
social
structures they supported were successfully dismantled and replaced a
few
centuries later.
Dr.
Fatmagul Berktay of
Istanbul University argues that
patriarchy and female subjugation are peculiar aspects of monotheistic
religions. She also notes, however that these structures became
established in
ancient Mesopotamia (Berktay
9), which at that time practiced a polytheistic
religion that also tolerated the other beliefs that outsider and
subject
populations practiced [including Judaism] (Wells
266-267).
Amongst
the Semitic peoples [viz. the Hebrews and Arabs], there
developed a
conception that their childbearing capabilities actually make women
inferior to
men. While men “produce immortal cultural products,” women only produce
mortal
beings thus making them inferior. Men are further to be considered the
mediators between the Divine and mortal and women must go through their
men to
attain spiritual contact. Being thus spiritually inferior and logically
unreliable, explains Dr. Berktay, women’s sexual and reproductive power
must
then be under male control (Berktay
10).
It
must be emphasized that such cultural mores predate the advent of Islam
in the
Mid-East. Although the Koran specifies that women are equal to men in
the eyes
of the Almighty, such pre-Islamic practices as holding women as
property,
female infanticide and polygamy ended up being folded into Islamic
life,
continuing in some parts to this day (El-Aszhary
109).
The
concept of inherent female evil and inferiority requiring subordination
was not
held in parts of the world untouched by the cultural axis stretching
from
Mediterranean to the Indian subcontinent. Ancient Chinese social
conventions
held that there was a natural division of labor wherein “men were in
charge of
external affairs and women were in charge of internal affairs.” The
ancient
Chinese did not hold women in equal status to men, but such talk of
feminine
evil did not exist (Zhang
¶5).
In
pre-Columbian America [viz. before European discovery and
settlement],
there was a wide variety of social structures, depending upon the main
food
source – hunting societies tended to place men at a higher status while
gatherer/cultivator societies tended to be more equal, some even having
female
leadership. Some tribes, such as the Cheyenne and Iroquois considered
the fact
of their childbearing abilities to be reasons to exalt women as special
beings
requiring protection and deference (Allen
192-194).
As
did every human society in the world, the earliest Europeans worshipped
a
plethora of entities symbolic of things that give and sustain life --
the
Earth, the Sun, trees, water, crops, game animals as well as the
archetypical
man, woman and child (Green
24).
Such
theology was completely
unacceptable to the
monotheists who worshipped the male god of Abraham. To these early
evangelicals, every other deity was false and every other religion of
the world
was blasphemous because they had certainty that they and they alone –
finite
beings though they were – had knowledge of the infinite Almighty’s true
nature
and will (Larousse
437).
Once
Rome became
Christianized, the pre-existing female
subordination in secular life was now strengthened by religious
sanction. The
deeply entrenched Celtic practice of having female leaders and feminine
Divinity had to be eradicated if the monotheistic religion originating
from the
Mid-East was to take hold. The special divinatory powers ascribed to
women that
were already widely accepted in tribal pre-Christian Europe became
problematic
as Christianity spread northward and westward. The old European deities
were
thus characterized as demons and the priests and priestesses who led
their
worship were characterized as sorcerers and witches. Women were
especially
targeted, because unlike the men, their leadership roles could not be
retained
in the new religion – they had to adopt the social roles that were part
of the
imported theology (Hanegraaff
218-219).
It
must be re-emphasized that
the patriarchal strictures
in Indian Buddhism and in Mid-Eastern Abrahamism [viz. Judaism,
Christianity and Islam] were already strongly emplaced in these
societies. They
are not essential parts of these religions and are instead of a social
and
political nature and as such subject to questioning, review and – in
time –
revision. In other words, if you are comfortable practicing one of
these
religions, I am certainly not making the case for you to abandon your
faith.
There
is a secular element to
this phenomenon as well
however, that must also be dealt with. This aspect is more personal. As
a man
I’m glad to have the opportunity to explore this subject. Struggling
with the ramifications
of male/female relations with respect to any inherent feminine evil, I
have
come to the conclusion that it is incumbent upon us men to make some
concessions. It is therefore appropriate that a man be the one to
articulate
what form such concessions should take.
Are
women beguiling and
bewitching us men with their
behavior and beauty? Well, in Taliban Afghanistan, women were not only
required
to cover themselves from head to toe, they also couldn’t speak to
strangers
lest their feminine voices stir the souls of men. Your VOICES alone are
enough
to send chills up our spines, ladies! [This
writer must confess to being particularly susceptible to any sort of
feminine sensory input. Pitiful.]
Does
this mean then that women
must be silent and cover
themselves up lest they be held responsible for what men may think or
do? This
may be the dominant view in most world cultures, but I say it is not
only wrong
-- it causes misery for all concerned. I’ve read a few pieces by Muslim
women
who say that they happily choose to cover themselves, explaining that
they can
then be regarded for who they are, rather than their looks. That point
is well
taken and women certainly should be free to choose to cover themselves
up, but
not be required to.
We
men must take
responsibility for how we react to any
and all external stimuli. If we can be successfully trained to ignore
bullets
whizzing past us as we charge forward on the battlefield, then we can
find a
way to let a woman be beautiful in our presence and simply enjoy it
without
making nuisances of ourselves. We men cannot fairly blame women for
what
thoughts they may inspire. How can women be considered evil because of
what we
think or do in response to their existence?
Research
on finding a more
natural and mutually fulfilling
male/female dynamic has borne little fruit from authoritative sources.
An
intriguing perspective is offered in a little piece called “A Married
Woman’s
Guide to a Happier, More Fulfilling Relationship” by an anonymous
writer online.
What is suggested is extremely radical, and I don’t necessarily endorse
everything recommended, but…
According
to the author, the
traditional dynamic of men
lording over women’s sexuality makes neither party happy, because it is
essentially unnatural. The author notes that a relationship starts out
fine and
everybody is happy, because there is courtship and pursuit – bringing
flowers,
being attentive and complimentary, etc. Once the relationship is
established,
familiarity sets in and the man becomes bored because he knows he
already has
his woman and no longer courts her (Anon
pt. 1).
Apparently
this is wrong. In
order for a relationship to
be fulfilling, the courtship should never stop. The author argues that
the
woman must be the one who decides when and under what circumstances
physical
intimacy must take place. Only if the man is required to “expend
considerable
effort” in an ongoing pursuit will he value what he has attained.
Further, he
will enjoy it more (Anon
pt. 5).
Although
love remains
unconditional, the woman must make
romance conditional and uncertain. In order to make this effective
women must
then develop the self-confidence necessary to assert such a role. The
author explains
that every woman has “the essence to attract, captivate and hold sway
over
men.” It is not a matter of youth or beauty. Women, the author goes on,
tend to
be much harder on themselves with respect to physical appearance then
are men.
It’s really a question of attitude and men are naturally disposed to
accept such female assertiveness
whether we realize it or not (Anon
pt. 6).
Now
the author is not saying
that the woman should be in
sole charge of the family or even the relationship -- those things are
still
negotiable. What is being argued is that given a woman’s cyclic needs
and certain realities [she risks childbirth, not you], the physical
aspect should be up to her.
This could
be exciting and fun. The author argues that a man should learn to enjoy
such
things as brushing his woman’s hair or giving a massage without the
expectation
of it leading to anything else. A woman should know that she could
permit such
events without feeling an automatic obligation to go beyond. The author
goes further to say that a happy relationship demands that the
fulfillment of the man's needs should be made conditional upon the
woman's approval and the satisfaction of HER needs first. [THAT was tough to clean up!] (Anon pt.
7-8).
Does
this sound frustrating
for the man? Perhaps, but judging
from the testimonials from the men that were attached to the essay,
none were
complaining. In fact, they were quite enthusiastic.
So are women
inherently evil? Hardly. We need to
re-assess
our perspective towards ourselves and each other, looking for the true
essence
of what is man and what is woman, based upon objective reasoning rather
than
the artificial dogma that has become only too familiar.
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Dodson
PhD, Betty. Orgasms for Two: the
Joys of Partner Sex.
Harmony Publishing Company, 2002.
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Therigatha” Female
Stereotypes in Religious Traditions Kloppenborg, Ria and Wouter
J.
Hanegraaff, ed. Leiden, The Netherlands: Brill Publishers 1995.
Hanegraaff,
Wouter. “The Image of the Witch in Neopaganism” Female Stereotypes
in
Religious Traditions Kloppenborg, Ria and Wouter J. Hanegraaff, ed.
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Paula Gunn. The Sacred Hoop. Boston: Beacon Press, 1986.
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